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When the relationship was just beginning, you dreamed of locking the door at least for a while and finally being alone. Do not run anywhere, do not let anyone in — isolate yourself from the world. And now the romantic fantasy has come true, but you are no longer sure that you are happy about it.
You and your loved one spend all the time together, locked in the same apartment. Isn’t it wonderful? Why did the dream of all lovers turn into hell for the majority?
Don’t be so quick to blame your other half, your homeschooled kids, or yourself for fights, tantrums, and alienation. The reason for this is an unusual situation for which we were not prepared. Over the years of wars and cataclysms, we have tuned in to the fact that in a dangerous situation we must act: run, hide, fight.
Passive waiting, the inability to influence the situation, the state of uncertainty — we did not assume that our psyche would have to go through all this.
For those who are in quarantine with their partner, it is important to understand that in a confined space not only relationship problems are exacerbated, but also personal anxieties and traumas for everyone. However, it is in our power to reduce tension and find ways to be there. Indeed, in difficult times, the family can become a source of support and an inexhaustible resource, if you stock up on patience, love and turn on your imagination.
1. Have a real time together
Sometimes it just seems like we spend a lot of time with our loved ones. In fact, physically we are closer than usual, but emotionally we are very far away.
Therefore, try at least once a day to spend time talking, without gadgets and TV. Listen to each other, be sure to ask questions, be sincerely interested in the anxieties and feelings of your partner. Help him cope with fears, understand himself, find a way out of a difficult situation. Such conversations give a feeling of acceptance, support.
The importance of sexual relations cannot be overestimated. They allow you to become closer both physically and emotionally. But how to maintain attraction if you are together day and night?
Yes, we are cut off from the outside world, but we have a fantasy world. They are infinitely diverse, each has its own images, ideas, dreams. Talk to your partner about your sexual fantasies. Describe the images that excite you, offer to bring them to life, and you will become closer to each other.
But do not forget that fantasy is a «movie» that shows our unconscious. We have no control over them. Therefore, be prepared to tolerate even the most unusual and frank stories and images.
КСНУМКС. Чувајте се
Appearance is important. And first of all for us, not for a partner. In beautiful and neat clothes, we feel more attractive and confident. Rather ready for touch and intimacy. And when we like ourselves, like and partner.
4. Бавите се спортом
Lack of physical activity is directly related to mental stress. We found ourselves in a situation where, on the one hand, the ability to move is more limited than ever, and on the other hand, the need for sports activity has increased.
But even with severe restrictions, you can figure out how to play sports with the whole family and enjoy it. A fun workout will put your nerves in order, cheer you up and allow you to better feel your body.
Choose exercises for the whole family, share workouts on social networks — charge with positive and inspire everyone around.
5. Створи
Creativity has amazing healing power. It helps us rise above reality and get in touch with something greater than ourselves. Therefore, it is a good idea to come up with and implement a creative project.
You can paint a picture, assemble a huge puzzle, sort out a photo archive and creatively arrange a photo album, you can make a video about your feelings, talk about love for each other.
Of course, it takes effort to make your quarantine enjoyable and still strengthen your relationships. Organize space, coordinate schedules. It may seem to some that planning is contrary to the nature of true feelings — spontaneity.
Yes, impulse, impulse really mean a lot in love. But sometimes we don’t have to wait for inspiration, because it’s in our power to make relationships the way we want them to be.