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They get their children’s names tattooed
Laura proudly wears the first name of her princess on her cleavage, Sandrine did not wait for the stars to make the buzz to register that of her loulou on her calf. Céline chose the inside of the medium, all along the finger, while Solène, Chacha and Anaïs favored the forearm, Caro, she wrote the first name of her daughters on each wrist. Baboum Baboum plans to add the date of birth and a sentence to the first name of her baby which already adorns the inside of her right wrist. For Sandra, Evii and Suzy, it’s already done. As for Amélie, her gift for her 25th birthday will simply be her daughters’ initials …
Since the 90s, a craze for tattooing has been born. A true social phenomenon, getting a tattoo is no longer a way of showing one’s belonging to a marginal group, a tribe or even a neighborhood, but a way to seduce and embellish oneself. Apart from this decorative and aesthetic function, the choice of the pattern inked on the body is fundamental, because it expresses the symbolic and personal dimension of the tattoo and marks most of the time an essential stage, an exceptional event, in the life of the one or the one who The door.
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A desire to mark the occasion
Maternity is obviously one of the important existential caps that make many women want to get a tattoo. Engraving the first name and / or date of birth of her child on her skin represents a rite of passage between the young woman before and the young mother of today, it is an emblem of her new identity, of her new social role. On the other hand, most moms consider it a good time to give it a go. Geraldine says that she drew the initials of her children in the wings of a pregnant fairy to enhance her role as a mother. Fanny confirms: “I’m not very tattooed, but it’s the only one I would agree to do! “As for Gaëlle, she is ready to take the plunge:” I find that so beautiful! I would be tempted, but I’m just afraid of the pain! “
A new expression of the status of mother
As the psychoanalyst Dina Karoubi-Pecon emphasizes: “ The recognition of her maternal status is no longer done by her rounded belly, but by an indelible inscription on the body. We go from the fetus, which is inside the body, invisible, to a trace outside the body which becomes visible and signifies to others and to herself that she is a mother. “Through the tattoo, the mom sends a message to others and puts herself in the scene. The fact that it is placed on immediately visible places of the body, that it is deliberately exposed, or hidden in more intimate places that only a privileged few can contemplate is not trivial. Maëva was careful to discreetly engrave her daughter’s first name on the inside of her wrist. Elodie created a drawing that corresponds to her daughter, but neither first name nor date of birth, according to her, it is more subtle than that! Some tatoo-manic moms are very sensitive to the lucky charm of Polynesian, Thai or Buddhist motifs. In their countries of origin, these traditional tattoos are considered “magical” and give the wearer powers of protection and blessing. By writing the first name and / or date of birth of their little one on their skin, these mothers make an alliance with him and protect him for life. For others, what matters is the desire to be unique. Tay, for example, will get a tattoo of an original drawing, “When I have had all the children I want and have thought through what best represents each of them.” It took me five years to draw the first one, lol! “For Sandra, it’s in the works, but you just have to find” the perfect place “. Aline takes her time to think: “My son has just been born! Either I transform my daughter’s one that I have on my wrist, or I make another one. As for Mélanie, certainly a music lover, she wrote the initials of her two boys on a musical staff.
The refusal of separation
Like the lovers of yesteryear who proudly displayed an “A Lili for life!”, Stuck in a heart pierced by an arrow, these mothers who feel the need to inscribe their children indelibly in their flesh willingly speak of their certainty that in this way, they will belong to them forever. But this illusion of eternal love, this belief in owning their child for life has a paradox. ” What these women actually express is that they belong entirely to their children, because when we put a name on a medium, the medium becomes the property of the name which is written on it. When they write their baby’s first name on their arm, they give themselves to him, they make him their owner! », Explains the psychoanalyst.
In the same way, one can wonder if this carnal link materialized by the tattoo, this way of saying to the face of the world “I have it in my skin” is a roundabout way of refusing the inevitable separation between a mother and her children. small, a way of denying that we do not make children to keep them, but so that they leave us once they are brought up. Elodie, for example, says she is proud of her tattoo: “I wrote ESE, these are our initials – Elodie, Stéphane, Evan – intertwined. My son is my flesh and blood, and my boyfriend will always be my son’s father, so he is his flesh and blood as well. “Jennifer speaks of her son with passion:” He is my flesh, my blood, the love of my life. I have it in my heart, in my head, in my skin and in my skin, forever so much I love it. »Miriam is not to be outdone:« I drew the first names of my son and my daughter on my leg, above a phoenix, because they are my eternity. “Vanessa is just as inflamed:” I had a Hindu Ganesh tattooed on my back with my children’s names in Hindi on it. We are sure that our children will always stay with us. “
Mom tattoo: risks?
Does the danger of being too fusional mothers lie in wait for fans of tatoos? Not necessarily, explains Dina Karoubi-Pecon: “Some get their tattoos at the time of weaning, others when their child begins to walk, to grow up, to go to school, to move away, to be more independent. By inscribing it in their body, they can let it go into reality. They thus have the illusion that the moment of separation will be less painful. If most of the posts on Facebook are positive, some moms have nevertheless expressed some reservations. According to them, there is no need to go through this indelible inscription on the body to be a mother. Nadia points out that her daughter is engraved in her heart, no need for a tattoo. Cécile wonders: “Do you have to get a tattoo to remember their first names and dates of birth?” My baby is engraved in my heart, and that is the main thing. “Same story for Cécé:” Me, personally, I do not need that to have them in the skin, lol, but each one does what he wants! “And Nadège will have the final word:” We already have magnificent natural tattoos on our bellies! It’s called stretch marks, I think… ”.