5 ситуација када не би требало да сачувате свој брак

If all attempts to improve family relationships fail, ask yourself the question: is it worth saving the marriage? Yes, we are used to thinking that it is worth doing at all costs, but what can it actually lead to? Perhaps – to the fact that suffering and dissatisfaction with family life will only grow. Here are a few times when you should probably seriously consider divorce.

1. Life on the battlefield for “preserving the family for the sake of the child”

A situation in which marriage is based only on the upbringing of a joint child, and the relationship of parents leaves much to be desired. Growing tension, mutual claims, lack of common interests daily inflame the home environment and lead to frequent quarrels and scandals. Both spouses suffer from unfulfillment in family relationships and do not feel needed and loved.

The child himself grows up in an unhealthy environment of constant conflicts between loved ones. Because of this, in adolescence, he may experience psychological problems and form an incorrect model for building relationships in the future.

In such situations, it is extremely important to ask yourself the question of whether it is really worth saving the marriage, and most importantly, why. If the motivation is exclusively a child, then most likely it is not worth it: in the end, he only suffers. If both parents want to build relationships, it is important to move from the father-mother family model to the husband-wife model. When the tension is gone, there may well be room for happiness and fresh feelings for each other.

2. Loneliness in a couple

A situation when one partner cannot rely on the second, because the one, the other, is with him only “in joy and wealth”, but not in “illness and poverty”. With all serious problems you have to cope on your own. Over time, the partner who avoids problems begins to complicate the life of the second spouse even more, as if testing him for strength. The emerging feeling of weakness gives rise to aggression and a desire to demonstrate one’s own superiority, and for this it is necessary that the loved one fail.

Is it worth staying in this relationship? In a family, it is important to pool resources to achieve common goals, and not to take advantage of each other, stepping aside when something goes wrong.

3. Feeling that leaving will only make things worse.

It happens that a partner – usually a woman – is driven by the fear that leaving will only aggravate the situation, provoke aggression and persecution. And this fear is so great that the victim remains in a relationship with the rapist, trying to fulfill all the requirements so as not to anger the quick-tempered spouse.

Getting out of a situation of domestic violence is necessary, but it is extremely important to take care of your own safety in advance.

4. Испуштање гаса

A situation where one partner makes the other doubt their own mental health. Gradually, the pressure builds up, and the victim begins to feel that the truth is “not in itself”, and the aggressor passes off his inadequate actions as the norm. For example, a spouse may find out that her husband has a different family – with children, joint plans and dreams. Not only is the situation itself unpleasant, but also the partner can assure his wife that what is happening is absolutely normal.

5. Guilt and the feeling that you constantly owe something to your partner

Life throws a variety of tests on families. Some partners steadfastly overcome any troubles and hardships, grow and become stronger. But it also happens that a tragic situation becomes a method of manipulation: “If it weren’t for you, I would … leave (a) to work in Australia, get a promotion at work, give (a) children a normal education.” A person is made to think that the partner for the sake of him gave up something important and now he is in deep debt.

Enduring guilt undermines self-esteem, and life gradually becomes completely unbearable. As in previous cases, divorce in such a situation becomes the only way out, but it is better to prepare your way of retreat in advance, without waiting for the moment when the cup of patience overflows and you have to go “nowhere”.